I read an article recently on the importance of children learning to tell their own stories.   When I say ‘telling stories’ it may sound as if I’m in favour of kids lying to their parents, but actually, learning to narrate our own stories is vital to the understanding of the self. 

Learning to imitate, to use language, to understand tone of voice and body language influences how we grow up, expectations and how we communicate with others.  However, what intrigued me most about this article was its claim that we also come to understand the flow of time, and in understanding flow of time, we understand ourselves.

“How does that work?” I hear you ask.  Well, imagine this conversation:

Mummy:   Do you remember the ice-cream at the park last week?

Child:         Yes.

Mummy:    Well, if you’re a good girl, we’ll go again tomorrow.

Child:         I’m a good girl.

The obvious thing here, is the reward for being good – conditioning and blackmail all in one!  But the not so obvious, is the picture the child has.  The ‘self’ she sees eating ice-cream last week is not the self of today sitting in the room playing with bricks.  The self she pictures eating ice-cream tomorrow, is also not the self of today.  She learns to differentiate.  By picturing an ‘other’ self, she is building a story of herself through time and learning to narrate it.  In narrating it, she is slowly creating a self.  “I am a good girl and Mummy is taking me to the park to eat ice-cream” repeated often enough becomes I am a good person, and being a good person becomes important to our understanding of who we really are.

So, what happens when we say, ‘I don’t know who I am anymore?’  Have we lost our ability to narrate, to connect with the flow of time, of who we were and who we have become, of what we should be?  I’ll leave you to ponder.


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The Inclusion School Banner

Under the Common Ground Inclusion Project, designed and managed by The Equality Practice, GTSET took Inclusion into local schools and delivered workshops teaching about Diversity, Equality and Inclusion. The children produced banners to promote tolerance and paraded at GTFC ground, in front of a crowd of over 3000. The banners now hang in their schools, furthering the message of tolerance, welcome and respect into our communities.

This was part of the Building a Stronger Britain Together Common Ground Project.

Mums against crime

The Equality Practice has had the great pleasure of working with some amazing mums from North East Lincolnshire’s East Marsh area.  These ladies are proud and capable as individuals, but as a newly forged team, they are a now constituted group called ‘A walk in the Park’, and they are unstoppable.

Fed up with the state of their children’s Park, Albion St Park, they have joined together to do something about it.  With sheer hard work and lots of effort they have raised thousands of pounds and are refurbishing the park themselves.  The Equality Practice has been able to help them to form as a strong team, help them raise funds and establish contacts within the local authority and social housing providers.

They have, and continue to, work very hard to give their children and the children in their area somewhere safe to play!  What a pleasure it has been working with you.

Funded mainly by The Tudor Trust, with some support from the Tribune Trust, The Equality Practice is working with mums on the East Marsh in North East Lincolnshire to ensure their children have access to a furnished park, where their children and other children can play safely. Mums Against Crime helps women to come together as a team, gain confidence in their ability to change and positively affect issues in their own area, for the good of the community.  The work these mums have undertaken shows it is possible for residents to create change.  It will show their children and others that coming together and working together, sharing tasks and responsibilities can bring about change, helping to ensure children can, and do, take part in good and positive activities on the East Marsh. The Mums Against Crime Team have raised a great deal of money for the refurbishment of their park, and The Equality Practice has been able to help them raise further funds.  However they still need more support.  If you can support their efforts with time, resources or funds please get in touch.  Your help would be very welcome.

Warrior Women

The Warrior Women of North East Lincolnshire recognise the value and contribution that women make in our society. We recognise that women are often the ‘Backbone of the Community’. They hold families together, they work, they mother, they care for, they volunteer, they problem solve, they police, they job search, they hold it together when they are breaking inside, they love, they weep and they get up and do, even when exhausted. Many women are single, or struggling with an abusive partner or ex partner. Many are struggling with bouts of anxiety and or depression, and yet they get up, get out and they carry on! Does this sound like you or a lady you know? Get in touch to find out more.  

Old laptops for new starts

Part of the work we do is helping disadvantaged people, particularly women and minorities. During our work we have come across an issue that seems to be easy to fix if only we can find ways to access the equipment. Many of our participants are really trying hard to help themselves and improve their life circumstances.

During these unprecedented times having access to the internet has never been more needed. There is a growing digital divide between the haves and have nots. Lots of service providers including job searches and access to basic services have moved their customer services online. If you do not have access to the internet you are often absolutely stuck.

We are currently seeking old laptops. They do not have to be fancy machines and when you don’t have one even an old slow one is better than none.

If you know of anyone who has an old laptop that they would be willing to donate then please get in touch. Additionally we are taking donations via our donate button to purchase second hand and refurbished machines. You can easily and securely send us a donation by using the donate button at the top of our pages on the website. All the money from these donations will be used to fund laptops. Please remember to mention laptops when you donate so that we know to use this for this project.

New way to help people!

We are delighted to be able to offer a quick and easy way to help people in need. Using a secure and trusted service via PayPal, you can now donate to worthy causes that are run by The Equality Practice. You can rest assured your donation is needed and will be used to help those most in need. We will give regular updates as to how we are helping with your donation.

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